It's Not What You do.. It's How You Do It
Oct 16, 2024
Understanding the Basics: What You Do vs. How You Do It
Let's start with a simple yet powerful example. Imagine giving flowers to someone you love. It's a lovely gesture, right? But the impact of this act can vary tremendously depending on how you do it.
For instance, if I give my wife a dozen beautiful roses but do so with a disinterested attitude, the act loses its meaning. Conversely, if I give her a single flower with excitement and love, the impact is far more significant. It's the same action, but the energy and intention behind it make all the difference.
Applying This Concept to OCD and Anxiety Recovery
So, how does this idea apply to OCD and anxiety treatment? The way you engage with recovery tools matters significantly. For instance, when you practice techniques like the AAA response or emotional regulation, your underlying energy and intention play a crucial role.
1. Negative Energy: Self-Hatred and Disgust
Many people approach their recovery with a negative energy of self-hatred or disgust. They try to "fix" themselves out of a sense of inadequacy. This approach is like giving those flowers with disinterest; it doesn't yield the desired results.
2. Positive Energy: Self-Love and Compassion
On the other hand, when you approach the same recovery tools with self-love and compassion, the results can be dramatically different. The intention to improve yourself out of love and care is like giving a single flower with immense joy and love—it is far more effective.
Why How You Do It Matters More Than What You Do
The energy you bring into your recovery activities can alter the trajectory of your progress. Doing the right things with a negative mindset will not be as effective as doing even lesser actions with a positive mindset.
For instance, engaging in ERP (Exposure and Response Prevention) with an energy of fear or obligation won't be as effective as doing it with a spirit of curiosity and courage.
Practical Steps to Shift Your Energy
1. Self-awareness
Begin by becoming aware of your current energy state. Are you approaching your recovery tools with negativity?
2. Intentional Shifts
Consciously decide to shift your energy towards positivity. Approach your practices with love, compassion, and eagerness.
3. Consistent Practice
Make this new approach a habit. The more consistently you practice with positive energy, the more it becomes second nature.
Conclusion
In conclusion, to make meaningful progress in your OCD and anxiety recovery, focus not just on what you do but how you do it. The energy and intention behind your actions are what ultimately drive your success.
