How to "manage" stress

What is Stress?

Understanding stress begins with questioning what it really is. According to Matt, many people think stress is environmental, something that happens to us. This common misconception often leads us down the wrong path in managing it. Stress isn't merely a state you're in or your surroundings. It’s your perception and appraisal of events that make them stressful.

Stress is Subjective

Imagine this: you're getting ready for an exciting night out, and you play your favorite music loudly. This environment energizes you. Now, picture hearing the same loud music while you're trying to sleep. Suddenly, what was once seen as joyous becomes stressful. The difference? Your perception. Matt emphasizes that it's not the external factors causing stress but our belief that life should be different from what it is.

The Root Cause of Stress

What lies at the root of all stress? It’s our perception that life ought to be different from what it is. When we resist the reality of situations, we tighten up and stress follows, leading to physical manifestations like muscle tension, headaches, and high blood pressure.

Changing Your Narrative

So, how can you manage stress more effectively? The key lies in changing your narrative and belief structures. Instead of expecting life to conform to certain expectations, focus on being okay with life as it is. This change in mindset can significantly reduce your stress levels.

The "I Have To" Trap

Frederick Dotson suggests that the language we use can also influence our stress levels. The phrase "I have to" makes us feel like we’re cornered, making situations feel stressful. Reframing it to "I get to" or "I choose to" can make a world of difference. You shift from a mindset of obligation to one of opportunity and choice, reducing the perceived stress.

Real-Life Example

To illustrate, Matt shares a personal anecdote about dealing with his crying son in the middle of the night. By changing his perspective from "I have to" to "I get to," he not only felt less stressed but also managed the situation more calmly, which had a positive effect on his son as well.

Taking Control

Managing stress effectively involves focusing on changing your narrative, beliefs, and energy, rather than trying to alter the uncontrollable aspects of life. If you're looking for more structured support, Restored Minds offers various resources and programs designed to help you take back control.

Final Thoughts

We hope this guide brings you valuable insights into managing stress. Implement these strategies into your week and observe the positive changes. For more resources, head over to RestoredMinds.com or check out the links in the video notes for free resources and low-cost books.

Stay tuned for our next post where we continue to explore ways to improve your well-being. Here's to a stress-free and fulfilling life!