Matt's Audio Letter of the Week

Hey everyone, welcome to today's Feel Better Letter, or FBL.
This is Matt. I hope you're having a great day.

So real quick—if you're listening to this and it’s before 10 a.m. Pacific Time, that means you still have a chance to register and join my live training today at 10 a.m. It’s free for the community. There’s a link in the email where you can register and get access, so I really encourage you to do that as soon as you can.

Today’s call is going to focus on why people stay stuck—and how to transcend that.

One of the ideas I’m going to go into, and I’ll briefly share it here, is one of the traps that keeps us spinning in the loop:
It’s the belief that once I understand this, then I’ll be free. Or then I’ll be ready to change.

We operate from this idea that once we fully grasp something—once we’ve gone through all the information—then we’ll understand it. And when we understand it, that will instantly make us free or liberated.

But this is the opposite of truth.

There’s a massive gap between intellectually understanding an idea and actually embodying it in a way that your nervous system registers as truth.

Recovery is about taking a foreign idea—something that runs counter to how you’re currently living—and going through the implementation process of embodying it until it becomes part of your system.

That does not happen through intellectualization.

This is why most of you have probably read several books, watched hours of YouTube videos, listened to podcasts, attended conferences—and yet still feel frustrated. You might be saying, “I know this. Why isn’t knowing it changing me?”

Because information alone doesn’t create transformation. Embodiment does.

Embodiment happens when you take information—often with the help of someone who has already embodied it—and work through the blind spots, nuances, and roadblocks that are preventing you from living it.

And most of the time, we don’t know what’s standing in our way—because we’ve never walked this path before.

If you apply this idea to other areas of life, it’s obvious.

Take dating, for example. Someone might want to date or be in a relationship. They can read 500 books on dating and know exactly what someone should do in theory. But knowing what someone else should do is different from getting in the game and doing it yourself.

Same with recovery. Everyone knows how to get a six-pack. But knowing isn’t the same as implementing.

And often we hide in information gathering. We convince ourselves we’re progressing because we’re learning. We browse Reddit, watch videos, leave comments, and feel like we’re doing something—because it’s more productive than watching Netflix, right?

But this becomes its own compulsive trap. Because listening and learning aren’t the same as doing.

Information is part of the journey—it’s necessary. But generously, I’d say it’s 20% of the process. The other 80% is embodiment.

Same with investing. You can read all the books, know about diversification, etc. But if you never open an account and put money in the game, you’re not really investing.

You can know everything about mental health, recovery, consciousness, ERP, ACT, allowing feelings—but none of those concepts do anything unless you actually embody them.

Trying to do this alone rarely works. The moment you hit hardship, you fall back into learning more instead of stepping forward.

And that creates a self-fulfilling trap—believing that the information outside of you is what you need, when in truth, it’s the embodiment that creates change.

Trying to embody something without support, guidance, or accountability just makes the process harder than it needs to be.

It’s like opening a financial account and clicking buttons without knowing what you're doing—you could, but it's not advised.

Same with recovery—you can try to do it all alone. But it comes with mistakes and unnecessary difficulty.

That’s why this community exists. Because again, information doesn’t create transformation.

That’s what I want to stress today.

In the call, we’re going to talk about what actually creates transformation, what beliefs stand in the way, and what it really looks like to achieve what you’re aiming for—which is ultimately, to end your suffering.

So with that, I hope you’re able to make it to the call.
The link is in the email.

Wishing you a wonderful weekend,
And looking forward to seeing you there.